Episode 63: I Can't Believe How Wrong I Was
Episode Summary
Our brains just love to be right and think that they know how things are. But I have found that the best parts of my life right now are the parts that my brain was completely wrong about. And, even more important, I find that the more wrong my brain is, and the more willing I am for my brain to be wrong, the better my life gets.
In this episode I share lots of the things my brain was wrong about in the hopes that you can look at your own life and start to question the things your brain is telling you—and wonder what would be different if you were willing to be wrong about those things.
What becomes possible to us when we question the limiting beliefs of our own brains is astounding and powerful and exciting. And the best part is that you have the ability to decide that what your brain thinks is just wrong and believe whatever you want instead!
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Our brains just love to be right and they just love to see the world in a certain way. They like to think they know how things are going to go. But for me, the best parts of my life right now are the parts that my brain was completely wrong about. And really, I find that the more wrong my brain is, and the more willing I am to have it be wrong, the better my life gets.
I’m sharing some the things my brain was wrong about in the hopes that you can look at your own life and start to question the things your brain is telling you and wonder what would be different if your brain was wrong about all of it.
1. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about my body – I can have any experience I want in my body. And I can love my body in any moment because that it is a choice. My brain wanted to believe that loving my body was contingent on meeting a certain standard, but loving the body I have been given and using it in a way that brings me joy is just a choice….it is the way I choose to think about the gift of living in a human body. And it is the same for you.
What if your brain is wrong about your body?
What if your body is 100% lovable as it is?
What if your body is capable of anything?
What if your body’s unacceptableness or its limitations are just a story your brain made up?
2. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about my lovability – Lovability isn’t based on the object of our love. Lovability is based on our ability to love. You are 100% lovable. If you love yourself or if you don’t that is just a skill you have either acquired or you haven’t. You don’t have to change anything to love yourself. You just have to practice thinking thoughts that create love.
3. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about being happy – The truth is that earth life was designed to be a 50/50 experience and there is nothing wrong with negative emotion. Negative emotion is supposed to be there. I didn’t have to solve for it, and that I didn’t have to run from it or buffer from it or change it. It was just there to be experienced. That’s what it means to be a human. To experience negative and positive emotion and learn from it.
4. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about what creates my emotion – When I learned that evey emotion I felt was created because of a thought, it changed everything for me. Because if my emotions are the result of what happens outside of me then I live my life in fear and worry and I need to control it all. Knowing that between every circumstance that happened and every feeling I felt, was a thought— that was 100% my choice—was incredibly empowering. It meant I didn’t have to control the world. I just had to control the way I thought about the world.
5. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about my mistakes – My brain was wrong about the idea that I was supposed to do it right and it was wrong about the idea that my mistakes meant failure. Not only am I supposed to make mistakes—a lot of them—but thinking that I shouldn’t be making them was the only thing that kept me continuing to make them.
6. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about my ability to change – My brain was totally wrong about how to change and that’s why it believed that I couldn’t change. The truth is every one of us has an endless, infinite capacity to change. And we do that by changing our thoughts instead of our actions. When that change is powered by love and motivation and joy and curiousity and belief and faith, our capacity increases all the more.
7. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about relationships – How I feel is 100% up to me and so is the quality of my relationships.
8. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about money – I didn’t know that the way I thought about my money and the way I thought about my ability to have money was in direct correlation to how much money I actually had.
9. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about God – The truth is that God is never disappointed. Disappointment comes when something fails to meet a certain expectation. Because God knows me, I never fall below expectation. His knowledge of me is perfect and so it is impossible to disappoint him.
And God’s ability to love is perfect—not because I am perfect but because he has the perfect ability to love. I don’t need to do anything to be loved by him. That is just his nature. It is his ability. He loves me right now as I am because of who he is. His whole business is the education business. The purpose of earth life was never to choose the right. It was to learn to choose the right. And it was always to make that choice because I wanted to—not because I had to in order to be loved.
10. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about my ability to contribute – Each of our brains are institutionally limiting to each one of us. Because of fear and insecurity, our brains want to limit how much we do, how far we can go, how much we can contribute. It feels safer to our primitive brain.
11. I can’t believe how wrong my brain was about the future – There are zero limitations on any future I want or any future you want. Because all of it was created one thought at a time. The truth is that each of us is a child of God and God is a creator. Which means that we have inherited his creative ability and we can create and form the future we want if we stop believing that we can’t.
I want to challenge you to look at your life and the things you think and to wonder what your brain is wrong about.
- What does your brain believe, what does your brain tell you, that it is just categorically wrong?
- And what would if mean for your life if you knew it was wrong?
Ask yourself:
- What else could my brain be wrong about?
- What else do I want to be wrong about?
- What are the things in my life that I think are true that I wish weren’t true?
Because I could just decide that I’m wrong about them right now and think something else entirely.
Look at the possibility that suddenly open up to you, just when you allow your brain to be wrong about all of it. What becomes possible to us when we question the limiting beliefs of our own brains is astounding and powerful and exciting. And I want you to know that you have the ability at any moment to decide that what your brain thinks is just wrong and believe whatever you want instead.
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